Back in the days when a man beat his wife and the wife beat the children and the children beat the dog, was that considered abuse, or mere punishment, the administering of justice?
“Cartoon-Sept. 2019” Is it just now politically correct to label those actions as abuse?
Interestingly, the abuser does not see his actions as being wrong. After all, he’s merely exercising his rights to control his so-called property.
Abuse can be as silent and innocuous as hypertension. Often the victims aren’t even aware that they have the problem, until it’s too late. That’s why it’s so difficult to detect.
The irony is, there are men who suffer from this type of abuse too, and are so downtrodden and emasculated that they often lose their identity. Sadly this is rarely reported, for who’s going to believe it? Plus the shame is just too much to bear. Men who are abused emotionally, mentally or physically are victims 10 times over, as they are also ridiculed and vilified by society, which is in itself abuse.
When does a man decide to get up one day and slap, punch or kick his woman? And why does she remain in the situation? Plus, why doesn’t she retaliate?
The abused will say, “Oh, it’s not so bad, he doesn’t do it that often.” While the abuser will say, “Oh, it’s just a little slap to stop her backchat, she’s used to it.”
The women live in abject fear and often cut themselves off from family and friends. That’s what abuse does to the human psyche.
So who is the abuser? He’s usually the man with low self esteem, so he bolsters his ego by beating down and beating up someone whom he deems to be weaker than him. Rarely will those men fight or even confront other men.
So why don’t the women fight back, what do they have to lose? For many, the thought of leaving is unheard of. Many others harbor the thoughts that they invested too many years in the relationship to simply walk away and let some other woman move in.
Are abusers drawn to that those types of women in the same way that predators are drawn to the weakest in the herd? Statistics have proven that to be true,.
But what about those women who always end up with abusive men, do they too seek out that type of man? Scientists say so too. Some women and men will never be abused, never, while others live with the cycle of two way abuse forever.
