She’s desirable, one who is worth his while, one who he can be interested in. It really means that she’s worth the effort, still on the market and not yet on the back shelf.
It does sound a tad misogynistic, doesn’t it, even bordering on sexist, but ironically it’s a woman who brought this to my attention a few weeks ago. I hadn’t seen her in decades, and when I commented how the years had been good to her and that she still retained her looks, her reply was, “I’m still desirable huh?”
Okay, so who is desirable and what makes someone desirable? It’s simple really, someone who catches your eye, titillates your senses, makes your desire jump, your heart skip a beat and your loins leap. “Man, who is that lady, she look desirable” In many cases it’s spoken as a compliment, especially is the woman is supposedly up in age, not too youthful.
“She’s married long time and divorced now with three children, but she’s still desirable.”
What though, are the attributes that make her desirable? First it’s looks, but not only looks, for some women are beautiful but not desirable Men are visual creatures, and what he sees is what he likes, and if he likes what he sees, then that’s desirable. “The first time I laid eyes on her my heart went flip flop.”
But there are other attributes that make a woman desirable, such as sensuality. Too many women call down age upon themselves and shed all vestiges of sensuality that they once had. They dress dowdy like old church sisters, or like retired country school teachers, and have no sensuality or sexuality at all.
Those are the undesirables, and they repel men more effectively than pepper spray. “I wouldn’t even give her a second look, she’s so undesirable.”
Do you think that when she gets up to speak in parliament, or gives that lecture at the university , or defends that man in court, or even speaks at the pulpit, that men don’t think, “She looks fine, very desirable.”
It has its genesis in desire and no matter how you may want to sweep it under the carpet, it’s a reality that men experience every day of their lives. The secret irony is, most women seem to love the idea of being desirable, even though they might not admit to it publicly. Remember, women spend half of their time trying to look attractive to men. “Imagine, I was in the supermarket and this man told me how attractive I looked.”
This applies even to the mothers and aunts of friends of yours. You may meet your friend’s mother for the first time and get blown away, smitten by how desirable she looks.
But in the same way that some women can remain desirable, it’s the very same way that they can make that quantum leap to being undesirable. Back in the day she used to be a fox, more than enticing intriguing, inviting, attractive. But somewhere along the way, that lustre was lost, the shine came off the ball, the crackers lost its crunch and what was once desirable, now became undesirable.
Nobody wants someone who calls down age upon themselves. “Boy, she’s only forty five but acts as if she’s seventy five, very undesirable.” Now I’m sure that many persons, mostly women will take offence to what I’m saying about being desirable or not, but I am not the originator or author of the concept, just the harbinger of tidings.
Strangely, I haven’t heard many women refer to men as being undesirable. A man can cruise through life and still be on the market even while up In age.
The word desire connotes desirability, lusting after, wanting, perceived and potential availability. So tell me, do you want to be classed as desirable or not?
