It’s a brand new year, and many people plan to make a fresh start, a new beginning, which sometimes includes a change in the relationship. Yes, dumping their partner.
But nobody likes breaking up, unless of course, you’re the one doing the breaking up and you’re a cruel person. Or maybe your spouse was treating you badly and you really want to sever ties and get on with your life.
Sometimes the person doing the breaking up may feel badly, if they have a conscience, and feel sorry for doing the deed. “I really feel bad for breaking up with her, for she’s such a nice person.”
While others can be brutal, as they use the most insensitive methods to drop the hatchet, such as sending a terse text message, or over the phone. “It’s over, I don’t want to see you again, ever.”
That’s cold, and in this age of technology, that method of breaking up occurs quite frequently. Just press the delete button, or erase or block.
But why do people breakup? The causes are infinite, but usually it’s because a third party entered the equation. He or she cannot deal with two at one time, and wishes to spend more time with the new person, so the solution is to breakup. Maybe it’s on theirown volition, or maybe they got an ultimatum. “It’s either she or me, make your choice.”
Usually when faced with a breakup, the first question asked is, “Why, is there someone else?” Most times there is, for people rarely step out of a relationship unless there’s another one pending.
Boredom is also a major factor why people breakup. One partner just got bored with the other and decides to break it off. Women do not accept this reason or even believe it, and question the man’s love. “You never really loved me or cared about my feelings, that’s why you are bored with me now.”
That being said, sometimes breaking up can be a blessing in disguise, as it can free you to move on to a better life. “I feel as if a weight lifted off my shoulder. I’m glad that he broke up with me.”
What happens after the breakup though? Some of those affected may slip into a deep depression that they never recover from, never get involved with anyone else, and despise the very thought of a future relationship.
I have known women who were dumped by their lovers and sank so deep into a depression that they swore off men forever.
Men on the other hand, tend to take a different approach. Well, some men do, for there are still a few idiots who act as if only one woman exists in the World, and if she leaves, his life is over.
Other men though, take a different approach, and play the field as if there is no tomorrow. Having now been freed of the shackles of a sour relationship, he now has the freedom to pursue any and every skirt that he sees.
That feeling of liberation can be exhilarating. “She did me a favour when she broke up with me, now I can really have fun.”
There’s a caveat though, as this only applies if you’re still young, for after a certain age, the field may seem just a bit too daunting for you to play in.
For some persons, parting ways, breaking up, divorcing can be most liberating, while for others it can be devastating. “What am I going to do, where am I going to go, he left me and now I have no one.”
That happens to a lot of women, and they never seem to be able to get another man, especially if they’re past a certain age.
Yes, breakup-rebound is for the young, for after a certain age, you’re off the market and left to linger on the shelf of solitude. See ya.
