Fathers and daughters have always had a special bond.
Daughters look up to their fathers for approval, guidance, strength and protection. Yet we hardly hear about the plight of daughters without fathers and the effect that it has on them. Mostly we are bombarded with stories about boys and their absentee fathers and how the young men suffer for this.
But there are also serious problems and challenges that daughters without fathers encounter. Sometimes these last for years, if not forever, and often impact future relationships. This absence could be for various reasons, ranging from death, migration, imprisonment to abandonment. All can be terrible. She may take it personally and become wracked with guilt.
DISOWNED
What’s even worse is if the father disowned the daughter, accusing the mother of infidelity and of bearing the offspring of another man. That abject and total rejection can burn her soul right into adulthood and scar her emotionally.
Research has documented that daughters who grow up without fathers actually experience puberty earlier than girls who live with their fathers. Sometimes those girls spend their entire lives seeking a father figure to fill that void, which may explain why some women are always involved with older men. Some women actually call their spouses daddy or pappy, especially in Latino and Hispanic cultures.
Some of these women actually end up having complicated feelings towards their spouses, as they still feel a deep anger towards their father who abandoned them.
BITTER
They are often bitter and angry all the time and don’t even know why. This misguided anger is really pointed at the father who was never there for her as a child.
Sometimes daughters will have their fathers present in their lives, but the man is so cold and aloof, lacking in affection and sensitivity, that it’s almost as if he wasn’t there. Many times these girls end up flitting from one short term relationship to another, as they seek affection, closeness and compassion from another male, something that they didn’t get from daddy.
On the other hand, when the father is abusive towards his daughter, beating, slapping, punching her at will, that also scars her for life. In her mind, all men are abusive brutes, so all men will pay in one way or another. One weird irony in this scenario is that many of these women always end up in abusive relationships, as perhaps deep down in their subconscious they seek out abusive men … just like their father. It’s been suggested that women seek men with similar traits of their fathers as spouses.
So when you see some women acting in strange and unpleasant ways, many times they are victims of their past, and were no daddy’s daughter.
