Are most people unhappy, or have they captured that elusive, flitting butterfly that was thought to be impossible to catch?
Just recently someone wrote that all Jamaican women are unhappy. That’s such a blanket statement to make, for no gender is all anything.
What is true though, is that more names are given to women, such as miserable, cantankerous, sad, bitter, surly, than are given to men. When last have you heard anyone say this about a man? “What a miserable man.” And when last did you hear this said about a woman? “She miserable just like her granny.”
The fact that someone would actually write an article saying that Jamaican women are all unhappy, is cause for concern. After all, it’s been said that Jamaica ranks among the happiest places in the world, despite all the challenges.
There’s even the famous phrase, ‘Jamaica no problem.’
This may not be true all the time, for crosses can be real and devastating, but on the surface, Jamaicans are a happy people, not staying down in the dumps for long. It was Shakespeare who wrote, “Prepare for mirth, for mirth becomes a feast.”
Maybe that sums us up, for we do like to eat, and whenever we eat, we’re happy. For some reason though, women often put a damper on happiness, and cast a pall of gloom over situations, a melange of misery, a cornucopia of crosses, especially when it comes to dealing with men.
It appears as if women are constantly griping over something to do with men, resulting in the men calling them miserable. It also seems as if some women feel guilty about being happy as if they don’t deserve it, and then find some way to crush a happy occasion.
. “Lord she miserable, is what happen to her?” To be miserable, you have to be unhappy, and even women call other women miserable. “I could never work with other women, them too miserable.”
Misery is simply another word for unhappy, for if you’re truly happy, you can’t be miserable. Men almost all say the same thing, that their woman is miserable.
Have you ever heard people say a man is miserable? He may be other things, violent, cruel, brutish, aggressive, but rarely miserable. If he’s described as such, it’s usually qualified by saying, ‘like a woman.’ “How you so miserable and acting like a woman?”
What makes women so unhappy, and by extension miserable? Maybe it’s their high expectations, for many women do tend to harbor lofty expectations when it comes to dealing with men. When those expectations are not achieved, they become unhappy, and with that unhappiness is the manifestation of misery.
So when the man says that his woman is miserable, what he really means is that she’s unhappy. But no man is going to say, “My woman is unhappy,” as that would be an indictment on his ability to make her happy
He thinks, it could never be his failings why she’s unhappy, it has to be in her genetic makeup why she’s miserable. “She come from a generation of miserable women, her mother was miserable, her granny was miserable, and her granny’s granny was miserable, so what you expect?”
Many women are unhappy because of guilt, feeling that they have no right to be happy. So as a ray of happiness envelopes them, they reach for some distant memory or situation to put a damper on their happy feeling. A lack of a man in their lives is also cause for unhappiness.
There’s an article by Sarah Todd, titled, ‘It’s pretty much a constant, women are more unhappy than men across the world.’ It goes on to say, ‘For years researchers have puzzled over a phenomenon called the female happiness paradox. Labour economists David Blanchflower and Alex Bryson analyzed global data and concluded that ‘women are always and everywhere more unhappy than men.’ Wow.
